| Self talk is key. You can stop the struggle by ending | | | | effort--having a baby comes to mind. All mothers will |
| the self talk that supports the struggle. You've heard | | | | likely agree that childbirth has its down side, but the |
| it before--what you focus on is what you receive. | | | | ultimate reward makes it all worth it (yes, some |
| Nowhere is that more true than in believing it is a | | | | women feel great while pregnant, but I wasn't one |
| struggle to stay healthy. Who would want to be | | | | of them). Otherwise, everyone would be a single |
| healthy if it's such a horrible struggle? Yet, you've | | | | child. ;-) Think about it.Becoming a professional |
| probably seen people who are fit, healthy and happy; | | | | musician or baseball player comes to many who |
| you might even know a few. They seem to bounce | | | | played Little League and started practicing the piano |
| when they walk. They're animated and excited about | | | | when they were very small. Tiger Woods was only 3 |
| life, and if you asked them they wouldn't say it's a | | | | or 4-years old when his father first taught him to |
| struggle. "What do you mean," they'd ask? Struggle? | | | | hold a golf club. He also showed him videos of |
| Nah, I'm just doing what I want," and they'd mean | | | | professional golfers when he sat in his high chair |
| it.Forget the notion that you have to struggle and | | | | eating his dinner (his dad was a little odd, I'd say). |
| eat celery sticks for dinner. It's not true. Despite the | | | | Woods started playing golf at such a young age that |
| fact that you've lost the weight before and gained it | | | | he literally grew up playing the game. He wanted to |
| right back, despite your belief that you can't even | | | | play. His father undoubtedly drove him to work |
| look at food without gaining weight. All of those | | | | harder at it than most children would, but he had to |
| thoughts are just more beliefs that are keeping you | | | | have a strong drive of his own or he never would |
| stuck. What you focus on becomes your reality.What | | | | have made it. But what if he'd hit 6-year's old and |
| if You Never Got Hungry?I'm a prime example. I don't | | | | suddenly said to himself, "I don't want to practice. I |
| struggle. Some days I eat a lot. Some days not so | | | | hate golf. I wanna play with my friends. I'll never be |
| much. Some days very little. Yesterday I ate my | | | | any good at his stupid game."Maybe things would |
| usual breakfast and then, strangely, I just didn't feel | | | | have turned out differently. The bottom line though |
| hungry all day. I felt different somehow. Not ill, but I | | | | is he did what he did because he wanted to (his |
| just didn't want to eat. "What's up with this?," I | | | | parents obviously had a lot to do with it too), and |
| thought to myself, but I decided to just ride it out | | | | the reward? Today he's considered the most gifted |
| and see what happened. Well, I'm here to tell you | | | | golfer of all time, and to what does he attribute his |
| that nothing happened. I lived to tell another story, | | | | success? The practice and discipline of his mind. He |
| see another day. Nothing fell from the sky and the | | | | learned from one of his primary coaches to harness |
| world didn't stop spinning because I didn't eat much | | | | the power of his mind--using NLP and hypnosis |
| yesterday. It was just another day.Today I ate a | | | | techniques (and likely he's since started to use EFT |
| few handfuls of malted milk balls. No big deal to me, | | | | as well). Learn to use your mind to focus on the |
| but I know many of you are thinking, "I'd never be | | | | results you want - or conversely focus on avoiding |
| able to eat just some, I'd have to eat them all," and | | | | what you do not want, and you'll win your prize, |
| that is my point. Telling yourself you can't eat | | | | loving the process, instead of dreading it.How to Get |
| "some," or as many as you want, but that you | | | | StartedStarting from right now, get a box of |
| believe you'd be compelled to eat them all, no matter | | | | toothpicks, matchsticks, marbles, small rocks or twigs |
| how many there were is a belief that is keeping you | | | | from the yard. Something small enough you can carry |
| stuck. I don't believe that to be true, and so, for me | | | | it with you. Whenever you catch yourself starting to |
| it is not true.Changing a Fundamental Belief with | | | | say anything negative, "I don't want to ..., or, "I hate |
| EFTHow do you change a fundamental belief? You | | | | ...," or "I'm gonna strangle ..." Anything negative you |
| start with basic EFT using it for everything that | | | | catch yourself saying or beginning to say, whether |
| comes up, even though it may not seem related. | | | | towards yourself or someone else doesn't |
| Every worry, fear, doubt, struggle. Use it on | | | | matter.Start noticing how often you're feeding |
| everything, and those issues that do make a | | | | yourself negative energy. Then, apply the STOP |
| difference in your eating will start dissolving away. | | | | technique as soon as you realize you are doing it, |
| Try it - what have you got to lose but some | | | | you yell (to yourself) STOP, and immediately replace |
| weight?What's EFT? It's Emotional Freedom Training | | | | what you were saying with something else. Here's |
| and it's taking the world by storm as an easy, self | | | | what I mean:"I hate having to wash the ... STOP ... it's |
| administered practice to help reduce or eliminate the | | | | nice getting a chance to stretch and bend while the |
| emotional issues that keep us stuck. Free information | | | | car gets cleaned."Yes, it's stiff and forced, at first. |
| available at I added EFT to my toolkit as soon as I | | | | Anytime you attempt to change a behavior it will feel |
| learned it because it's easy to learn, easy to use, and | | | | forced. Just allow yourself to learn to change your |
| it's effective. | | | | self talk, and that early discomfort with the process |
| To learn EFT specifically for weight loss, get The | | | | will pass. It will start to be fun to "catch" yourself. As |
| Daily Bites (see resource box below). | | | | soon as you start doing it, you'll realize how often |
| Remember those healthy folks I mentioned earlier? | | | | you're been feeding yourself negativity, and you'll also |
| They don't view how they eat or how much they | | | | see how easily you can change that habit.Positive |
| exercise as a struggle at all. They are active because | | | | people tend to be happier people. I'm not suggesting |
| they want to be active, and they eat foods that | | | | you get a personality change, but I am suggesting, if |
| make them feel great. They probably eat a lot of | | | | you ultimately want to drop some weight and never |
| the same things you eat too--I'm talking about | | | | see it again that you change your thinking from how |
| everyday people who have learned to feel good | | | | much you'll have to struggle to how much better |
| about themselves. None of them are perfect--despite | | | | you're going to feel.Kathryn Martyn Smith, Master |
| the common belief that there is some "perfect" | | | | NLP Practitioner, EFT counselor, author of Changing |
| body, it's just not true. Everyone has a wrinkle here, | | | | Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss, |
| extra skin there. Every single one of us is flawed in | | | | and owner of OneMoreBite-Weightloss.comGet the |
| some way or another. It's what makes us | | | | Daily Bites: Inspirational Mini Lessons Teach EFT and |
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| the sacrificeEverything worthwhile takes | | | | |